The role of a divorce mediator can be extremely helpful and add a lot of ease to the process of divorce. Divorce, as we all know, is already a situation where emotions and anxiety are running high, and a level headed mediator can be exactly what you need to help get through the situation safely and reasonably calm.
As the concept is fairly new, many are unfamiliar to the role of a mediator in divorce proceedings.
The mediator’s place is to act as a go between and conflict resolver for the soon to be ex-spouses. They will cover each and ever pertinent and sticky decision that is needing to be made between the two parties, and aid in resolving disputes in order for the divorce to not have the need to go before the courts.
Situations that will be handled and worked out with the mediator will include financial assets, business arrangements, child custody issues, property and ownership of goods, as well as getting into the details of child support and income if needed. These are, of course, not the limits of the mediator’s role, but are the basic and typical areas that they handle.
Divorce Mediators and their backgrounds:
Mediators will frequently come from one of three backgrounds, though this is not the rule, only what is common. Many have a history in law and litigation. Some will have a psychology or counseling background. And still others will have a religious history or training, mixed with the other backgrounds mentioned here.
Do keep in mind that the mediator is a neutral party for the couple going though a divorce. They are typically paid cooperatively by the couple, and their position between the two is to remain unbiased and informative to both parties. One benefit of this is that instead of each spouse working from a separate source of information as in a personal lawyer or adviser, the mediator acts as a central and common source of help and information. This aids in both spouses being able to more easily stay on the same page and have better communication throughout the process.
It’s quite common for there to be multiple sessions with a divorce mediator. As the subjects being covered are extremely personal to both parties, it can be good not to rush it and to keep a level head. The mediator will also speak to each party with honest and reasonable advise. This necessitates both spouses being fairly willing to cooperate on at least a partial level, and trust that all the cards are being put on the table. The mediator can help in alleviating both suspicious behavior as well as suspicious expectations.
If your divorce will be dealing with a great deal of business and financial issues, it is often good to go in the direction of a mediator with a background in law or litigation. If you’ll be primarily be covering familial issues, as in child custody and simple property issues, you’ll do well with a more psychological or counseling savvy mediator. And of course, if you’re looking for spiritual guidance, there are definitely specialized mediators to fill that role as well.