Instructions Not Included Movie Review

Instructions Not Included

I am not likely to do a movie review very often but the movie that I saw this weekend “Instructions Not Included” left me quite moved.

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The premise of the story is quite a common one that we have seen in movies before. Handsome but lazy ladies man, Valentin,played by () beds all the foreign women in the resort town that he lives in until one day one of the girls he had impregnated comes to drop off his daughter. The mother soon escapes back to the U.S with Valentin coming to the realization that the fun has ended and that he now has to become responsible and take care of his child.

 

Valentin decides to go to the U.S to track down the mother with no success and ends up living in Los Angles and starting a successful career as a stuntman. Over the next 6 years Valentin grows into a loving and caring father to the point over indulgence. He lets his daughter skip school when she feels bad and he turns his apartment into a giant playground so that his daughter can play. Given that Valentin lost all contact with the mother, Valentin pens letters from the girls mother and gives them to his daughter in order to fill the hole in his daughters heart for the mother that she never met.

 

The fact is Valentin did not have to do this, but he knew that for his daughter’s sake it was important for her to have a mother that cared for her and loved her. Valentin would pen fantastic stories about her mother travelling the world and saving the world as a quasi superhero all for the sake of his daughter.

 

I have witnessed many divorce cases where the parents try to destroy each other in front of the kids, the ultimate form of this punishment being parental alienation. Parents from these types of divorces have no real general regard for their children and are really only concerned about their own pain and anger.

 

In the movie, the mother does come back and asks to get custody for the child. The contrast between the two parents- the mother looking to safeguard her rights as a parent, and Valentin’s interest only in his daughters well being is illuminating.

 

Valentin’s noble quest to protect and look after his daughters interest before his makes this a movie for any parent to see. 

 

 

 

 

Divorce and the Broken Heart

Broken Heart Divorce

I came across a great article on Catholic Lane about the pain of divorce. The article, which you can find here tells a story about a tough elderly lady named Joan doing a hard and demanding job. Joan was as tough on the inside as well as as on the outside, the author grew to know her and found that the toughness and bitterness came from a divorce from over 25 years ago, Joan had never been able to overcome this pain.

At DivorceCures.com our aim is to help people through the divorce process and hope that they can reconcile their lives in a meaningful way. The main way we do that is by making sure we have the best divorce professionals in our directory.

 

 

 

No national conversation about divorce?

I found this excellent article on Divorce as it relates to the tragedy at Sandy Hook.

The fact is that the two parent household has always been best for children and divorce has a traumatic effect on children. Given that Adam Lanza had serious issues to begin with it seems that the divorce caused him more pain than most as he did not have normal coping skills that most children do.

The article has many excellent points but this stood out to me the most:

“There is very little public discussion, awareness, or education on the effects of divorce upon the children of divorcees. There may be tons of psychological research done on it, but if so, it hardly penetrates into the public sphere.

In this particular tragedy, several news outlets even combed through the parents’ divorce papers, but missed the elephant in the room. They gleaned all kinds of factual data about the mother and father from those papers, but made no point at all about the impact of the divorce itself.” The article suggests that Adams downward cycle escalated after the divorce. It is an excellent piece and should be read by all