Parental alienation is the cancer of the divorce process. It eats away at the parent child bond until that relationship withers and dies. It is a documented fact that children who suffer from parental alienation are much more likely to suffer from depression, drug use, and teenage pregnancy.
Helpful divorce advice experts Dr. Barry Bricklin and Dr. Gail Elliot describe parental alienation syndrome as a disorder that arises during times of child custody disputes. The syndrome usually involves a parent who has made a decision to launch a campaign against the other parent. In other words, the parent brainwashes the child in an effort to destroy the relationship.
There are several signs of parental alienation. The include any of the following:
* The child degrades the alienated parent with oppositional behavior and foul language.
* The child provides absurd, frivolous, or otherwise week reasons for displayed anger.
* The child fails to demonstrate love for the alienated parent and rather leans towards feelings and actions of hate.
* The child claims he or she came up with feelings of condemnation for the other parent. For example, saying, “no one told me to do this.”
* The child protects the parent who is alienating their former partner.
* The child does not display guilt despite acting cruelly towards the other parent.
* The child utilizes borrowed scenarios as examples, even though he or she could not have possibly experience.
* Friends and family of the alienated parent also experience hostility from the child.
* The alienating parenting claims the child does not want to see the parent who is being alienated.
The symptoms of parental alienation become more and more harmful to the parent/child relationship the longer the brainwashing lasts. With time, the odds of overcoming this harmful damage are shortened.
As a parent, if you believe your child may be experience parental alienation syndrome, it is important to education yourself on the topic. Many online resources available explain what parental alienation syndrome is, its history, and how to fight it. The sooner you act to stop the harmful behavior, the easier it will be on you and your child.
In addition, parents can find strategies developed to specifically fight parental alienation. These strategies can be effective on children who have been manipulated or bribed by their parents. Remember, parental alienation is harmful to every one involved. Letting it fester will only complicate matters that much more.