By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT
Over the past years, through marketing my book, I have met a remarkable community of experts. Each of them has focused their careers on supporting and assisting people moving through and beyond divorce. It is essential for you to put together a team of professionals before you move ahead with major life-altering divorce decisions. It’s far easier to make changes during the negotiation period than it is to undo a divorce settlement after the fact.
One group to consider seriously are collaborative or child-centered divorce attorneys. This special breed really cares about helping families avoid unnecessary litigation to save couples both money and sanity, especially when children are concerned.
Others I highly recommend are mediators devoted to assisting couples to move through the maze of decisions regarding divorce and come out on the other side with a win/win resolution. I’ve also met many very devoted Divorce Coaches who can guide you through every facet of the divorce process, answering questions and helping you determine the best outcome for your personal needs, especially post-divorce.
I’m always impressed with the compassionate mental health counselors and therapists who lend their expertise to divorce-related issues. They understand the emotional, psychological, physical and mental dynamics that come about through separation and divorce. These counselors always provide a fresh, supportive perspective on how to overcome your challenges in the best way for your own well-being and that of your family.
I’ve met wonderful people specializing in financial, mortgage and related issues specifically focused on the consequences of divorce. There’s much to learn from these certified divorce financial specialists so you are financially prepared to encounter your life experiences without regrets in the months and years following your divorce. And equally important are the career counselors and other transition professionals who understand the challenges you face and can guide you in creating fulfillment and prosperity in the years ahead.
Don’t hesitate to take advantage of this wealth of knowledge, compassion and enlightened vision that you can find from the right professionals. And if the people you are dealing with don’t make you feel supported and cared about, fire them and move on to another. It is essential to find the right fit and feel comfortable in seeking out experts with whom you can share your concerns at this very vulnerable time in your life.
If you are not a surgeon you would not operate on yourself or a loved one when they are in need. Why not trust the expertise of a divorce professional when you need guidance in this challenging arena? Ask around for referrals, interview your candidates in detail, trust your gut – and then make a commitment to getting the professional assistance you need from just the right person.
Be sure to check out the Resource pages on my websites for excellent professionals who follow and promote the Child-Centered Divorce philosophy:
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Rosalind Sedacca, CCT is founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network where parents can access her free articles, ezine, blog and other valuable resources at www.childcentereddivorce.com. She is also author of How Do I Tell the Kids … about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children — with Love! The book provides fill-in-the-blank templates to help parents customize a personal family storybook that guides children through this difficult transition with optimum results.
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